This can be exacerbated by alcohol ,which often magnifies feelings and makes people act uncharacteristically e.g. Giving yourself time to heal from the break-up before you face your ex can help to avoid unexpected emotional reactions.It’s much easier to be in the same room as an ex if there are lots of other people there, rather than an intimate gathering.But you do need to make sure you go about this right.
Like it or not, we find ourselves appreciating our buddies’ tastes in women (what can I say, great minds think alike! Say a friend of mine breaks up with so-and-so, and we run into her at a party. Guys and gals get to know their friends’ significant others in nonthreatening, no-pressure contexts and learn to appreciate what their friend liked about them.
You’re into it, he’s into it, there’s some serious chemistry, and you might have stumbled upon something really special. In discussing this topic with my female friends, it seems to me that men are especially experienced in dealing with this dilemma.
Now, you’re faced with a most unenviable predicament: Walk away from someone who could end up being the love of your life, or put one of your friendships in jeopardy.
The chances are that if the break-up was reasonably amicable you’ll both still get invited to social functions held by your friends.
There’s no reason why you and your ex can’t remain friends but there are a few things to consider when making the step from being in a relationship to being friends or acquaintances.
You don’t need a cast-iron rule for whether or not you attend events where your ex is likely to be, take each invitation as it comes and see how you feel on the day. There’s always a chance that they could show up with a new partner on their arm, so play the tape forward and see how you feel.