LTK: What groundwork did you do to prepare for this book?
Susan Kiner: I interviewed extensively for the book, not confining myself to women or to the over 60.
I want to explain a little more systematically the reasons why this is important.
Keep in mind that by "break up" I mean any situation in which a man makes it clear that he is no longer interested in pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship with you: not calling after he gets your number, fading out after sex or a few dates, or explicitly ending a long term relationship.
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.
As Tony Soprano would say, "fuggetaboutit." Write them off. However, if the relationship is wonderful - marriage ensues. Learn to use an iron instead of being seen in public resembling an unmade bed. This happens as the ovaries struggle to keep up with the needs of an aging woman's body.
It's true that certain men prefer the company of women many years their junior. LTK: Do most people in their 60s want a relationship or a fling? That doesn't necessarily mean marriage, just companionship, fun and sex. Every day a new crop of potential "good ones" comes on the market. ''' Susan Kiner: During perimenopause, the months or years prior to menopause, levels of two female hormones, estrogen and progesterone, vary irregularly.After all, compliments are a great way to let your date know that you find them interesting and likeable. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you in no time] First date questions and what you need to know Questions are easy to ask, but the perfect questions are ones that lead to conversations.Don’t get personal or say anything that may leave your date feeling awkward or embarrassed.Move on Guys usually initiate the first date or two (it is OK for the girl to initiate it if they are already good friends) after that either may do so Whoever initiates it – plan to have at least one alternative place to go to or of what to do Give the other person time to think about it and perhaps come up with other options Discuss it with dignity.This is a good opportunity to agree on who pays for what? If you are running late ring and give a new ETA Dress appropriately for the occasion. Lightly perfumed or with deodoriser/after shave Guys – open, hold open and close doors for your date (even if she is driving) It shows that you are prepared to go out of your way to be courteous to her Girls - let him, but don’t expect it Either way, be gracious about it; smile or thank him This is not the time to push your liberated female views Some other time...maybe Girls usually precede guys in the theatre, church, movies, to the table at a restaurant and most other places and guys help her to be seated - this is sophisticated dating etiquette Guys on the other hand lead the way through crowds and traffic On sidewalks, guys should walk nearest the street to 'protect’ the girl - you get the idea Compliment each other Neither one of you is perfect, there has to be something to compliment with sincerity Look for it. If you can’t find something to compliment, why are you dating this person? Practice being gracious right to the end Next time start with a cup of coffee first – just to test the water Do not abandon your date at the venue Be close and attentive or it may become your last date with that person Being attentive to your date does not mean totally excluding all others in the group or at the party Be pleasant to your date Talking down to your date or being patronising is not good etiquette Remember your manners.At the same time, remember that some of the potentials you meet may be shy or may need a few minutes to open up and talk to you.