Read on for 10 tips that will help you get back in Cupid's good graces.Whether it's been one year or six since the divorce decree, you may never know with absolute clarity that you're truly ready for another relationship.Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of .That is, "when the very idea turns you off." But you can decide that you're ready to at least try.Here are three post-divorce dating dangers and how you can avoid them:1. Trusting a new man once you've been hurt by your ex-husband is difficult.
“I also saw that my ex wasn't the only guy who would want to be with me.
And when you do get into a relationship after divorce, even if the guy is faithful to you and is madly in love with you, you may not believe anything he says.
This can happen because in the back of your mind, you'll have this ongoing chorus playing: "All men are just like my ex-husband. All men fall out of love and break up with you." It plays like a country song accompanied by an out-of-tune guitar.
Dating after divorce can be a minefield for the midlife woman.
Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays—not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups—is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. "A divorced woman may feel very vulnerable at this stage, in part because she used to have a spouse to 'protect' her and now she has to go out into the world on her own," says Diana Kirschner, Ph D, author of .
Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed.